What a wonderful, witty, and arousing Netflix series starring Octavia Spenser. Did you catch it?
Having heard the name Madam C. J. Walker many times but not knowing the story, I was fascinated to come to know some of the struggles and triumphs of the proclaimed first African-American female millionaire in the United States.
The first thing I took away from the series is to never ever give up on your dreams. If there is something or a sequence of things you can’t shake, you must see them through. You will undoubtedly encounter difficult roads and stumble, but your will to keep on going will get you to where you need to be, in the company of those you need to meet, and in the rooms, you belong to be in.
Not only that but to never ever forget why you’re doing what you’re doing, why you started in the first place. Furthermore, to be very wary of wolves in sheep’s clothing. It’s a fact that not everyone rooting for you wants you to succeed.
Some people just won’t understand your vision – especially at first. There’s also no such thing as "going it alone." You will accomplish far more, at a much more advanced pace, with greater quality, together.
All people aren’t a disappointment. You can depend on people. They can have your back. But treat them right too and never forget to have your own back first.
Care truly and deeply. Everyone will not love you and that’s perfectly okay; in fact, you don’t want everyone to. You will have to fight, almost every single day. Not just against forces out there, but also the ones in your own head.
Even on days you don’t see the picture clearly anymore and others stray or get lost completely, you must lead. You must find the way. Why? Because you know. You know that it won’t be easy. If it were easy someone else would have done it already. If it were easy, everyone would do it.
It’s not meant to be easy.
You’re meant to get your teeth sharpened, your claws edged, and your gut bulletproofed. Not to become some robot or a killing machine, but to prepare to fight for yourself and that worth fighting for. Equally, to hug so tightly the wonderful rewards given to you.
The series highlighted the divide amongst a culture. Colorism, sexism, and the plight of the woman; the black woman, robust, forgiving, with hair like mine.
I rooted for her every moment I could. Recognizing some of her struggles as my own. The desire to be loved and accepted, supported and admired for exactly who you are. Flighty, introverted, reserved yet adventurous, and all the other little things.
Age cannot be the excuse nor can money.
It’s okay not to want to solve the biggest, hardest-hit global issues. It’s perfectly within your right to want a peaceful, comfortable, life you simply love. To make money and love making it. To never want to miss a beat with your kids. To curl up with really great books. All these choices are valid.
You love something, great! Go after that feeling and don’t stop. Does it stop being what you love? Okay, evaluate why and if it truly doesn’t serve who you are and where you’re going anymore, it’s okay to move on to what does.
It doesn’t need to be the wretched, heart-breaking, earth-shattering series of events we tend to conjure up. Delayed and pent-up emotions that gut us at our very core.
What do you have to lose? Perhaps if you give one thing an honest try, win, or learn, it might be just the thing you need in order to take another step and then another.
Will Smith said something along the lines of, why get worked up out of your mind for something, an action or event, that hasn’t even taken place yet. Oftentimes the energy you’ve exerted in being anxious, nervous, and restless seems so small when the action or event has been done. You probably end up realizing that it wasn’t even as bad as you were making it seem. You hyped it up in your mind for no reason or it wasn’t at all what you expected.
Try asking yourself, "Why not me?"
Why shouldn’t she be the first Afro-Caribbean woman from the small island of St. Maarten, to own a booming local grocery? Hell, why not a chain of stores.
While we're at it, why not uplift women, especially black women?
I like that woman.
1. What were your favorite takeaways from the Netflix series?
2. What would you do to help change things around for yourself or someone you care about?
And don't forget to subscribe to our email list.
♡ Much, much love.